I haven't uploaded my pictures from Jamaica yet so I'm saving the post about it until I do.
Tonight I went to field hockey. Last week we had a great game and I even scored. Tonight was a different story. We were playing a team that was WAY better than us and we lost majorly. Still, I feel like we played well as a team and we communicated and we did the best we could. We couldn't ignore than the other team was running circles around us and was just flat out better. We were one person short of a full team as well, so we had no subs and had to run around like crazy for the full hour. We have people of varying skill levels as well, so as much as we try, sometimes things just don't go our way.
At the end of the game, one of our stronger players who is pretty vocal on the field (which is good, but can come across a little harsh) decided to give us a little speech. It went a little something like this: "This weekend I was in a tournament that was about 10 hours. I ran harder that entire 10 hours than most of you did tonight. You all need to run faster and harder and get the f#$%ing ball. That's where I stand right now."
We all just kind of stood there and no one said anything. No one really addressed it and we walked away. In my opinion, the message was true and valuable, but don't you think it could have been delivered a little differently?
How about "I think we need to run way harder, we aren't getting to the ball quick enough" or even "Heather you need to run harder" or "__________ you need to run harder"... But is it really necessary to talk about how well SHE did and how we are worse? I thought the delivery spelled out B-I-T-C-H in a major way.
What do you think?
1 comment:
I think if she had used an example other than herself (perhaps a team mate from her 10 hour tournament), it probably would have been ok. But to be all "you all need to be like ME" isn't really all that effective. I also think that in the context of a recreational league, calling out individuals in front of the team might not be the most effective thing to do either. If she pulled you aside and said "hey heather, you're dragging it a bit today...run harder" it would probably be better than calling you out in front of everyone. In the context of pro-sports or high level sports, public calling out is probably ok, but in recreational sports, I wouldn't want to be picked on publicly...
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